Vi invito a partecipare alla stesura di un testo, in inglese, in vista di pubblicazione su
http://www.avoiceformen.com, che è il più seguito sito al mondo su questi argomenti. Il testo verrà inviato a Lucian Vaslan (A Voice for Men European News Director) che lo userà come bozza per una sua versione definitiva. La bozza del testo è qui:
http://avmtxt.wikidot.comChiunque può liberamente modificarlo, mi raccomando di evitare ogni cosa che possa far incorrere in censure. Per comodità, copio la versione attuale della bozza:
The rights of men and boys are under attack in Italy: media are making a violent defamatory anti-male press campaign with the goal of obtaining feminist laws (such as the Instanbul convention) and 85 million € of public funds for those feminist organisations that attack men by pretending to protect women from what they call "gender violence".
Media repeat that "male violence is the first cause of death for women". The truth is that all violence is only 0.056% of women deaths, that women are only 23% of the italians who get killed: both men and women mostly kill men.
Media repeat that 7 millions of italian women are victim of male violence. This false claim is based on a phone survey, where italian women receive questions such as “does your partner criticise your dressing?”. Women who answered yes have been counted as a victim, without ever knowing it. The statistical fraud become evident when researchers asked the same questions to men, getting the same rate of "yes" answers.
Media repeat that Italy is the country of "femicide" and lobby for a "femicide" law. They want that killing a woman be considered a more serious crime than killing a man. The truth is that almost 50% of these acts are committed by desperate men who next commit suicide. Even so, Italy is one of the safest countries in the world for women: 5 women killed per million per year.
Media ignore much bigger problems: the suicide rate among separated fathers is 248 per year per million. The suicide rate gets 4 times higher with the separation, when men and children have to deal with a sexist judiciary system and with feminist false accusations.
How can things be so bad, given that sexist feminist laws, explicit in various european countries, do not exist in Italy because Article 3 of the Constitution blocked them: “all citizens are equal in front of the law without any distinction of sex, race, language, religion…”.
Italy is a strange country where what you see is not what you get.
Feminism never got popular among italians. However, it is politically powerful. Indeed, the main feminist organisations, like UDI (Union of Italian Women), were founded by PCI (Italian Communist Party) and still have a strong power, mainly in left parties. Through politics, italian feminism got a strong artificial influence on the media and in the State.
Almost all italian newspaper are funded by the State and host a feminist blog. For example, the communist journal "il Manifesto" hosts the blog "women and female children first", with similar ones on the main italian newspapers. Comments of readers are often censored, and even so they are mostly negative. Anyhow, almost nobody in Italy believes in the official media, and internet allows for free information. Men's rights, attract interest among real people: for example hundreds of thousands of people follow a Facebook group that speaks for the rights of everybody. There is one father who managed to get into the official media. He opened a fake feminist web-site, publishing extremized versions of the usual anti-male rants, with the goal of exposing them. Journalists believed that it was real feminism, so now "she" is on the official media (for the moment "her" name is a secret).
Political power is a bigger problem. Italians can vote for parties, but not for politicians. Once elected, politicians can do whatever they want. A government decided that the state gives money to employers who hire women. 400 unemployed men commit suicide every year. Elections showed that such government was supported by only 10% of the people. But next, politicians in one of the main charges a feminist from a party that got 3% of the votes.
Like in all countries, the real reason why men work more is that many women do not like feminism and prefer the traditional female role rather than becoming workers.
Unfortunately there is one moment when many italian women accept feminism and the hate against men.
It is the moment of divorcing.
Under this demand, italian feminism become a sort of "mummism" which goes against international feminism. For example, Swedish feminists support child-care for working mothers, support joint custody such that women can pursue careers. Italian feminism does the opposite and is the enemy of fathers who that take care of children: they argue that children must stay with the mother until they are 3 or 6 (… or 18) years old. The rationale behind this is clear from the words of a feminist lawyer: «the situation is not so bad until the woman has the “cover” of children; when they grow, the women loose the family house, loose the alimony…».
When in 2006 the Parliament approved a joint custody law, such feminism took the only possible road in a country where laws are good but respecting them is optional.
Illegality.
False accusations are very effective in the country with the slowest judiciary system of Europe.
The result of these criminal acts has been described by many judges. Judge Carmen Pugliese said: “Only 2 out of 10 accusations of violence are true. The others are used as blackmail against husbands in divorces”. Gian Ettore Gassani, president of AMI (one of the main lawyer associations) says: “It is an emergency, the judges of Rome established that 75% of accusations against ex-spouses are false, done with the purpose of getting advantages”. Judge Barbara Bresci added: “Very often accusations are used to obtain children and alimonies”. Judge Jacqueline Monica Magi said: “it might seem unbelievable that false accusations of sexual and child abuse are used … almost always done by women that try to remove the fathers”. The psychologist Sara Pezzuolo says: “false accusations of violence, sexual abuse build to eliminate the ex-partner range between 70% and 95%”. Luca Steffenoni, expert of crime, computed in a book that accusations are used in 86% of the divorces. A research by prof. Camerini et al. showed that in Italy 80% of persons accused of child abuse are fathers, and they turn out to be innocent in 92.4% of the cases.
Even when false allegations are not used, italian fathers suffer hard times, as described by the New York Times:
«Even though a 2006 law made joint custody of children the norm when parents split, Italian courts continue to make mothers the primary caregivers while fathers bear the financial brunt of the separation. Critics say the law, as it is applied, favors women […]
When Umberto Vaghi, a sales manager in Milan who was divorced last year, split from his wife in 2004, for example, he was ordered to pay her 2,000 euros, or about $2,440, each month for upkeep on their home and support for their children, then 10 and 8. Each month, Mr. Vaghi was earning 2,200 euros, or about $2,680.
In Italy, charities say that a growing number of those using soup kitchens and dormitories of churches and other agencies are separated parents. “An uncomfortable reality but easy to believe, considering that 80 percent of separated fathers cannot live on what remains of their salary,” Ms. Saso, the researcher, wrote.
The Rev. Clemente Moriggi, who oversees the Brothers of St. Francis of Assisi, a Milanese Catholic charity, said that in the past year separated fathers, ages 28 to 60, occupied 80 of the 700 beds in the foundation’s dormitories, which do not house children. That is more than twice the number of just a few years ago. “These men earned average salaries that only left them tears to cry once they paid their alimony and mortgages,” Father Moriggi said.»
What happens is that the democratically voted joint custody law is not applied by judges: ADIANTUM (association for children rights) launched a class action against the italian judiciary system, with an on-going collective proceeding at the European Court for Human Rights, that already sanctioned Italy in many individual cases.
On the contrary judges sometimes apply a principle (never democratically voted) adopted by Cassazione (the italian Supreme Court): to quantify alimonies they invented the “right to keep the life-style adopted during wedding”. The result has been described by the New York Times: men become slaves who work with a good salary, but still need to ask charities for a bedroom and for food.
Two recent sentences exemplify how judiciary system works. On March 8, 2013, the Cassazione sentenced that children must be protected from parental alienation (PAS): the alienator was a father. On March 20, 2013, the alienator was a mother: the same Cassazione sentenced instead that PAS has not enough scientific support. The President of Cassazione was in both cases Maria Gabriella Luccioli, already criticised in the past for other sentences. The main italian newspaper (Corriere, 11/7/2008) wrote: «she rewrote the family law. Everything and always in favour of women». The second main newspaper (Repubblica, 27/11/1997) wrote «somebody tells that Cassazione is becoming feminist».
